A Difficult Decision

Next week, I get to hang out with Jeanne Mayo and Richard Crisco.  There's also the slight possibility I could meet Ed Young, Judah Smith and a couple of other leaders whom I admire.

It blew me away when my wife said, "I'm excited and want to be there with you.  But it's just not that big of a deal to me."  

WHAT?  How could that NOT be a big deal?  Are you human?  

She followed up with, "Now, if it were the Duggars or Jon and Kate, it would be different.  That would be a big deal."  

Again, WHAT?  (I have very strong feelings about Kate)

Two years ago, I probably would've pitched a fit!  No lie.  It use to bother me that she would rather stay with the kids instead of do ministry with me.  

At a certain point, I came to an understanding...it has nothing to do with me!  Today, after a looonnngg process of maturing, I understand where she's coming from.  Spending time with these people is a big deal.  It's just not as big of a deal as spending time with her kids.  Her calling, her primary ministry is to our children.*  And I'm very okay with that.  As a husband, I couldn't be more proud.

After our discussion, I made a difficult decision and asked her to stay home with the babies, while I go to Dallas.  Now, understand...this is a once in a lifetime opportunity.  She realizes it's a sacrifice, but she's willing to do it for the sake of our family.  Ministry is about sacrifice, but too often we sacrifice the wrong things.  I could learn a thing or two from her.  She is a Proverbs 31 wife, through and through.

Thanks, Baby!  I love you!

*I didn't write this blog to make anyone feel guilty.  Every family is different.  This is our unique situation.